If beauty is not important

We tell our children,we tell ourselves, we tell other people: It’s not what is on the outside but what is on the inside that is most important. I think we like to believe that,though it is not true. Lets be honest here can we? If beauty were not that important why are there so many different types of make up and hair products,and clothing to enhance our features. You don’t see people saying “well I just wanted to look ugly today.” 

No no one wants to be called ugly. It’s the way people say the word UGLY. It is said in a mean forced out way. Almost like a form of punishment. If it were in a song, it would be said  in the sound of a tuba or a drum. Yet we tell people beauty is not that important.

Pretty and beautiful people are treated better and or often trusted more often than less attracted people. In fact in a way we are taught that Ugly people can not be trusted and they are mean. Remember Cinderella she had two mean Ugly step sisters. And Snow White was tricked by an Ugly witch.  So from childbirth we are taught Ugly means mean and do not trust.

What I want you to think about is. The beautiful people did nothing different except be born beautiful. They are most likely outgoing and happy because people have always treated them and a nice manner.Unattractive people are treated mean because no body cares about their feeling or people do not think that they have feeling. Trust me in this, no one wants to be called Ugly.  

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This helped with my adult acne



It can be embarrassing to walk around at any age to walk around with acne. I have suffered from acne so bad in my teen I was once asked by a classmate did I have chickenpox. People that was very embarrassing. If you do not have acne you do not know how it feels to have people judge you and talk about you to your face.

I have tried so many acne medications and home remedies and none of them seem to work. And believe me, there is always someone giving you advice even though they have never suffered from acne. I have had some people tell me that the reason my skin breaks out so much is because I put all this stuff on it. Keep in mind this is said as they are piling tons of make up on their face( something I am/is still scared to do).

This soap works for me. It is not that expensive. I think it cost me $6. I love it. I use it twice a day. No this is not a sponsored post. I saw a post the other day advising people on great ways to help clear acne. I know that struggle. It can be devastating. Parents if you have a child that has acne try this. If not please take your child to the dermatologist, please. It could be life changing. And you don’t know not understand if you have never had to live with acne. And people always seem to blame the acne sufferers for their acne. Trust me if we knew what made our face break out we would have been cured our own acne.

Ok I’m done with my advice,take it or leave it.

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If there is beauty in everything then why…..

If there is beauty in everything then why do other people feel the need to tell us what is beautiful? If you pay attention you will notice that there is some people in society that tell you what you should like. Some people will actually use the words” everyone likes this, this is all the rage, “. Then you have the others not saying words yet placing the words without saying them all over tv or a magazine.

Shouldn’t we know what we like. Think about this, there was once a time when many people thought having a big butt was ugly.Having full lips was ugly. Now many people go out of their way to achieve both. I once watched an episode of Andy Griffith and on this particular episode Aunt B was bullied after she won a fur coat and some home appliances. Every time she wore that coat “her friends,” talked about her. Saying things like “it’s not cold enough for that for coat, ” and, ” she thinks she’s to good to be around us in that fur coat. ” They made her feel so bad she eventually gave all her prizes back. Of course the next day one of her “friends” were walking around with a similar if not the same for coat. Her excuse now that she had it is” it’s not to hot to wear it. It’s nice and feels good, “. The moral of the story is some times people will tell you that something is ugly if they don’t have it,or if they can’t do it, or they didn’t invent it. I know I always seems to call back on us black people. Honestly I can only go by what I see and what I know. Another example would be the use of fun colors in our hair. When we did it, it was considered ghetto, on the other hand when white people do it, it is considered mermaid hair. That’s probably why white people are so mad about The Little Mermaid,who by the way is not real. I mean I do have a mermaid that lives in the water next to my house,but she is a grown woman mermaid. And she can not sing. Anyways as I was saying before, no one should be able to tell you what is beautiful.

Well that is all I have to rant about today. If any of you are aware of some of the things you are told to like comment below. I would love to hear from you.

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Seeing Me

When I look in the mirror do I like what I see

Perhaps I like my reflection,but do I see me

Do I see the woman that always tries

Yet if I look closer still, do my eyes reflect my silent cries

Is there strength and courage forming on the line around my nose

When people ask for a good woman, the point at me saying,”There she goes.”

Do I see all my faults and none of my beauty

Or will my eyes only see me, seeing me

Can having acne impact your life? But I think I can help.

Quick answer for me, YES! I don’t know that people who have never suffered from constant breakout understand that.

I started having massive breakouts when I was eleven years old. It was really bad. It was so bad I was once asked did I have chicken pox. That was quiet humiliating. I hated going anywhere. I hated talking to people. I often heard people talking about me behind my back, some would be so bold to tell me to my face. “Hey girl you ugly,” “Don’t nobody want you with all them thangs on yo face,” and “Hey ugly,” Sometimes I would get the “why don’t you look like your sister,” as if I had a choice.When I would go and apply for jobs, I was always placed in the back if I was hired.

I know some of you can relate. Acne can be a B*^*h. But here is what I learned about me and acne. When I was stationed in Kuwait they do not drink cows’s milk, which I happen to drink a lot of when I was growing up. Instead I drank a lot of tea, and because I still liked cereal I actually put water(which I do not recommend) on my cereal. My skin slowly started to clear up soon it was beautiful. And for the first time in my life i got a compliment. Yeah you heard me, a compliment. I had never had one, only insults.

Later on I learned of black African soap and shea butter, both of which has held me tremendously with my skin.

So below are the things I use to help treat my acne

Very low amounts of cows’s milk, (I think this is because of all the hormones )

Retin-A which I sometimes use but not often

Shea butter

Black African Soap

I also notice I tend to have more small breakouts if I eat a lot of pizza.

I hope this helps someone. There is nothing good about acne.

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One other thing.My poem “The show she puts on ,” is how I felt walking around with acne.

The show she puts on

She walks with

her head held high

She ignores the smirks

and sneers of the passerby

She hears the whispers

spoken behind her back

She knows her imperfections

and the beauty she lacks

She feels the laughter

and know there is nothing she can do

Yet she walks head high

to put on a show for you

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