Can you love someones’ music and not like them

I will start this blog off saying “Sorry mom, I know you love R. Kelly.” And I love my mom. I think if my mom did a lot of horrible things I would still love her, becasue she is my mom. Glad she has never done many horrible things to put my love to the test. But R. Kelly has.

In high school I remember listening to R. Kelly music. Later as I started a career in the Air Force I would dance to his music at the NCO clubs and perhaps any party that I attended. R. Kelly has awesome music. That does not mean he is a great person. My mom can not seem to differentiate between the two. In her mind everyone else is lying on R.Kelly. Despite me pointing out that “Just becasue you make good music does not mean you are a good person.” I explain that that the two are not mutual exclusive she does not care.

I watched that interview with Gail King. She did an awesome job. I also watched R.Kelly get so emotional he was borderline psycho. If you have ever been in an abusive relationship you know this is where it starts. The pounding of the fist to get a point across, the out of control sobbing, the “I’m the victim,” look. He wanted you to feel sorry for him. And in his mind he probably thinks he has done nothing wrong. Or if he did they deserved it, or it is not as bad as everybody is saying it is. Yet he showed you who he is right there.

Now to play devil’s advocate. If people are aware of the things that R.Kelly did and do not want the radio to play is music. How is that any different than acknowledging his sins and not acknowledging how wrong displaying confederate statutes anywhere is. The soldiers of the confederate where not patriots. They fought against what is right. We know that slavery was wrong. Just like we know what R. Kelly did was and is wrong. I know some of you are thinking that’s as different as apples and oranges. Is it though.

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My letter to Khloe Kardashian and other,other sisters

You will probably never read this and that is okay. I think I write this more for myself and for the other sisters of the world. You will only understand this if you are the other sister. The other sister is the one nobody pays attention to or is often compared too. She is the sister that people don’t care how she feels, and she is often overlooked are talked about right to her face.

You don’t know this if you are not the other sister, yet the ones that do they understand. Perhaps I am projecting my feeling about life on Khloe or the other sisters of the world. I know how I was treated and sometimes I am still treated like that even now.

My younger sister complained that Khloe had so much work done to her face, and she wondered why did she have to do so much plastic surgery. I responded. ” You’ve never had someone walk up to you and tell you that your sister is pretty, what happen to you?” My sister seem to be shocked when I told her of the people that often reminded me that my face was broken out are that I was not pretty. Hell I’ve had people flat out tell me that I was ugly and they would not care how I reacted.

And Kloe if your are anything like me or some of the other sisters you find yourself in relationships becasue finally someone like you and did not secretly like your sister. You did not care that it was a bad relationship it was just that somebody finally like you. And you overlooked every red flag to hold on to that feeling of being picked first.

Its sad and I know, but if you have never been on the receiving end of the meanness that the other sister goes through you will never understand. Because those moments when you feel beautiful are few and you want to hold on to them because you know that people will treat you nice otherwise you are invisible or talked about in the most crude way possible. People say that beauty is not important, but those are people who have never been treated in a crude way are compared to the next person only to be ignored or laughed at. I think all women want to be pretty or beautiful if for no other reason so that people want be so cruel to you.

Kloe what ever you need to do to feel pretty, do it. And for all the other sisters out there, do what makes you feel beautiful. I know they tell you that beauty is what is on the inside, but most people do not wait around to get to know the inside becasue they are to busy being crude to your outer appearance. And I have seen plenty of pretty mean girls, they never seem to have problems getting any friends no matter how they treat them.

Well I said what I needed to say.

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